Family Tales, because you aren’t dead till you’re forgotten.

As kids we didn't know we were "poor". We never truly wanted for anything like food or material goodies. If our grandmother didn't buy us something new, like bicycles or skates, we got it from our grandfather's second-hand store; and a stash of paper and "free" Coca Cola came from Smith Printing.

My paternal grandparents owned this printing shop. My memories include the colorful raffle tickets and flyers done for local churches, small businesses and community events. My grandmother Nonnie took care of the business side while my grandfather, Dada, turned out the print jobs with his two sons. I didn't know till recently that small jobs like that were the only jobs they could get. Smith printing was not a union shop, so large profitable jobs were denied them, along with union membership.

In our yard we had a teeter-totter, a sliding board and a set of swings on which we did skin-the-cats. Mike, my big brother, even had a little vegetable garden — I recall three stunted ears of corn. (Baba was working on the roof one day and got scolded when he fell off onto Mike's garden!)

My brothers and our best friend Gregory made a little club house in the narrow gap between the house and the fence. (Although I didn't then, as a five or six year old, think of myself as an adjunct, I tagged along with my older brothers when they played with "our" best friend.) It was a rickety construction and had a poster of the solar system, but we really didn't use it that much. We played on the sidewalk in front of our house. We were so silly emulating the Three Stooges (I even stepped on a rake — can't remember if that was deliberate) my Mom made us stop watching them.

We played ball and red light/green light, squirted little plastic water guns and bought little bags of peanuts from the one-armed man who roasted them in a trashcan on the front of his small vehicle. And when we heard the happy jingle we first ran home to get money, then ran to the ice cream truck with our coins.

I did take one lesson to heart. Baba asked our help in demolishing a small brick barbeque pit. It was accomplished so quickly, and the new, improved barbeque pit took so much more time and attention to build, I have always understood that it takes longer to build something than to destroy it.

No matter what it is.